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How to Stop Worrying so Much and Ease Your Anxiety

Apr 195 min read

How to Stop Worrying so Much and Ease Your Anxiety

Let me ask you a serious question… Can you name one thing in your life that was made better by worrying about it? I’ll wait while you...

What's the Relationship Between Chronic Stress and Burnout

Kaylin Zabienski

Mar 58 min read

What's the Relationship Between Chronic Stress and Burnout

I can oversimplify the comparison like this- chronic stress is over-engagement, burnout is disengagement.

David Goggins and How to Get Out of your Comfort Zone

Kaylin Zabienski

Feb 267 min read

David Goggins and How to Get Out of your Comfort Zone

I wouldn't normally quote David Goggins, but I found myself drawn to his words when it comes to discomfort and suffering. "Our whole life...

How is Reading Good for your Mental Health?

Kaylin Zabienski

Feb 55 min read

How is Reading Good for your Mental Health?

How is reading good for your mental health and intentional self care? I think that reading is an important tool when it comes to mental...

The 6 Dimensions of Holistic Wellness for a Better Life

Kaylin Zabienski

Jan 237 min read

The 6 Dimensions of Holistic Wellness for a Better Life

Do you ever get overwhelmed when it comes to trying to take care of yourself? It feels like there is a never-ending list of things to do...

Kaylin Zabienski

Dec 15, 20238 min read

Wellness Tips Year in Review

If you aren't on my email list yet- what are you doing with your life? But actually, even if you are, you may not remember these tips....

Thoughts on stress and overwhelm, with a side of self compassion

Kaylin Zabienski

Oct 23, 20236 min read

Thoughts on stress and overwhelm, with a side of self compassion

A private journal style entry about my own recent experience with overwhelm and near burnout.

Kaylin Zabienski

Jul 24, 20235 min read

What are the different types of rest?

Rest is essential to the normal functioning of human beings. We know and respect this about children - it is built into their days to...

8 Ways to Improve Work Life Balance for Millennials

Kaylin Zabienski

May 29, 20238 min read

8 Ways to Improve Work Life Balance for Millennials

Millennials are easily the first generation that really has to focus on finding and maintaining work life balance. Why is that? It’s...

Kaylin Zabienski

May 8, 20237 min read

4 Ways to Improve Self-Confidence

Do you feel like you’re a self confident person? Or do you wonder exactly what does self confidence mean? Hi. my name is Kaylin, and I am...

Kaylin Zabienski

Jan 10, 20238 min read

How Can I Develop Mental Strength?

New Year, New Habits: How to Get Mentally Stronger this Year It’s new year again and I’m sure you are being bombarded with messages about...

Self Care and Boundaries: Why You Need to Take Care of Yourself Before Anyone Else

Kaylin Zabienski

Nov 28, 20225 min read

Self Care and Boundaries: Why You Need to Take Care of Yourself Before Anyone Else

It's time to stop waiting for self care to happen. We need to set boundaries and MAKE it happen.

Your Body's Stress Response: Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn

Kaylin Zabienski

Oct 19, 20227 min read

Your Body's Stress Response: Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn

What is the Stress Response? You’ve probably heard of the stress response, and maybe even have some awareness of what it feels like in...

5 Reasons People Pleasing is Actually Manipulation

Kaylin Zabienski

Sep 20, 20227 min read

5 Reasons People Pleasing is Actually Manipulation

I know the title of this blog is pretty spicy- and I did that on purpose. People pleasers are often seen as the victims. At some point in...

Couples Who Split Chores (and calling out instagram haters)

Kaylin Zabienski

Jun 13, 20228 min read

Couples Who Split Chores (and calling out instagram haters)

Not too long ago, one of the couples counseling accounts I follow on instagram posted a reel about not putting up with the bare minimum...

Kaylin Zabienski

May 23, 20226 min read

How to be Nicer to Yourself

Read below for 7 tips on how to be good to yourself, and some reasons why it is so hard to be nice to yourself. Have you ever heard the...

Kaylin Zabienski

Apr 11, 20225 min read

The Different Types of People Pleasers

You’ve probably heard the term “People Pleaser” before, and you may even have a pretty good idea of what it means. After all, it isn’t...

How Dry January Changed my Relationship with Myself

Kaylin Zabienski

Feb 1, 20224 min read

How Dry January Changed my Relationship with Myself

I just completed another Dry January, maybe my 5th Dry January in a row. This year it felt different. This year, I actually took the time...

Kaylin Zabienski

Dec 6, 20216 min read

How to Set Boundaries in Relationships

There has been a lot of talk about boundaries in the wellness world lately- and with good reason! Especially during the holidays,...

Kaylin Zabienski

Aug 30, 20215 min read

How to Stop Saying Sorry so Much

Stop Over Apologizing. Easier said than done, right? In order to stop engaging in a habit that is so ingrained in our culture, in our...

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Kaylin Zabienski is a stress management specialist in Orange County, CA